Why Should You Depend on Other People?
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- September 5th, 2008 |
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Humans are so dependant on other people’s opinions. Having been assessed positively we feel powerful, booming, intelligent and beautiful. We judge ourselves according to others’ comments on our actions. When being criticized or laughed at, we feel bad, depressed and nothing seems to make us happy anymore. This happens only because our distance are not accepted in the elite. “Ego” cries for positivism, but none appears for you base your facts on the opinions of others. The actuality is that you will never be in favor of everyone surrounding you. Thither will always be a group of people that will not positively assess everything you do. One abstraction that will help against criticism is assurance that one should grow inside him/herself.
A educatee may be a perfect example. Since childhood people are likely to overestimate own possibilities and paint the picture of the future in pink colours. When elaboration a plan for future, we do not consider the majority of possible failures that might occur on the artifact to achiever. Perfectionism is a bad feature that is deserving getting rid of. Nevertheless it is present in the back corner of a adolescent student’s “ego”. Can you imagine a devastative consequence of a failure? The tutor praises the skills and intelligence. He feels like he is on apical of the class and can do anything. You get old to good things easily. When the genius is recognized you start to remember yourself only as of a genius. And after everything goes creaseless and bright thither is a point when individual, even your beloved tutor, comes to criticize you and your activity. Instead of an expected “A” you get an “F”. The perfect class falls apart because this error doesn’t fit into your plan. At this point you build a characteristic of your actions from the artifact your tutors, colleagues give you. This is the main error in your group of values and priorities. You tend to overlook the class from the point of analyze of other people. What one should do is to build up his or her own group of values and of course action into consideration any of cultural priorities. But every final decision you accept should be based on your decision. A failure should only affect to move forward and to overcome.
Interference of the elite is ineluctable. But it doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to close yourself in a class full of illusions. Hardships make a person more experienced, wiser, stronger. The more you hide and close into depression, the more time you loose to improve the situation. The reality is harsh but it is impossible to live beyond it.